Who is hanging on your clothesline of closure? Meaning who are you holding up accountable for closure in your life? A relationship that went south? A friend that wasn’t true-blue? A parent? A stranger? For some, this “c” word, is enough to evoke layers of trauma and make your skin crawl. It’s a heavy word, with it’s due diligence of baggage- so, how do we maneuver it?
We have been programmed to think of closure in a dichotomy: who we received it from and who we didn’t. The trouble with this perspective is that it creates a false pretense where the power of your peace lies in somebody else’s hands. SOS sweeties, let’s return that peace back to it’s rightful owner- you.
Closure can show up in a many different ways. In fact, I’m sure at the sound of the word, your thoughts already went to a friend, partner, or family member that you’re still waiting to “receive” it from. What if I told you the wait is over? And that closure is entirely up to you.
Cue in forgiveness, my friends. A friend once told me, “when you forgive somebody the person you are really setting free is yourself”. I can’t unhear that, and to be frank I don’t want to. Miracles are shifts in perspectives, and this is one that had my name written all over it- that message was for me.
Closure is not a gift to receive from someone else, it’s a gift of forgiveness that you give yourself. Forgiveness is not to discount the hurt or trauma we’ve experienced, especially when others are involved in the equation. Rather forgiveness is acknowledging the hurt, the trauma, and reclaiming your power of peace by saying “how I choose to think about this is my choice”. Whether this person or situation places you in the purgatory of closure, is entirely up to you.
As humans, one of the most powerful tools we have is visualization. Visualize the person or persons you’re “waiting” for closure from. Visualize yourself saying “I choose forgiveness here” and let them go. When you choose forgiveness, you are setting yourself free and wow-ee does it feel good.
Love and light!
Xx, Sab
We have been programmed to think of closure in a dichotomy: who we received it from and who we didn’t. The trouble with this perspective is that it creates a false pretense where the power of your peace lies in somebody else’s hands. SOS sweeties, let’s return that peace back to it’s rightful owner- you.
Closure can show up in a many different ways. In fact, I’m sure at the sound of the word, your thoughts already went to a friend, partner, or family member that you’re still waiting to “receive” it from. What if I told you the wait is over? And that closure is entirely up to you.
Cue in forgiveness, my friends. A friend once told me, “when you forgive somebody the person you are really setting free is yourself”. I can’t unhear that, and to be frank I don’t want to. Miracles are shifts in perspectives, and this is one that had my name written all over it- that message was for me.
Closure is not a gift to receive from someone else, it’s a gift of forgiveness that you give yourself. Forgiveness is not to discount the hurt or trauma we’ve experienced, especially when others are involved in the equation. Rather forgiveness is acknowledging the hurt, the trauma, and reclaiming your power of peace by saying “how I choose to think about this is my choice”. Whether this person or situation places you in the purgatory of closure, is entirely up to you.
As humans, one of the most powerful tools we have is visualization. Visualize the person or persons you’re “waiting” for closure from. Visualize yourself saying “I choose forgiveness here” and let them go. When you choose forgiveness, you are setting yourself free and wow-ee does it feel good.
Love and light!
Xx, Sab
Comment